My philosophy is simple: I believe that healthy, secure, connected relationships with ourselves, and others, is essential to achieving a balanced life with meaning and purpose.
In contrast however, the opposite is exponentially true—when our relationships to self and others are unhealthy, insecure, and painful everything in life is more difficult and seemingly less possible.
That's where I come in.
I want you to thrive in your life, not just get by, or worse, suffer. I will help you understand what’s really going on in your life and relationships, and discover what's in the way and how to move what needs moving or build what needs building. My work with you will be authentic, dynamic and focused. We won't get stuck telling your story without finding a solution to what troubles you.
My style is relational, supportive, direct, engaging, motivating and kind. I bring lots of personality to my work and whether I work with you individually or as a couple, if you're willing to put in the effort, I'll help you find a way out of seemingly impossible places.
Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS)
I am level one trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy), developed by Dr Richard Schwartz. IFS is an evidence-based psychotherapy model that starts with the premise that it’s normal for all of us to have a number of sub-personalities (called parts in IFS) as well as a deeper Self energy. IFS parts work is a way of understanding yourself and shifting stuck patterns. We work compassionately with all parts, to understand and ultimately heal them through connection with your Self energy. IFS holds the belief that all parts are welcome, that there are no bad parts, and that we all have a Self energy within us that is our true guide. When we access our Self energy we feel a sense of compassion, curiosity, calmness, clarity, courage, creativity, and connectedness. IFS helps people connect with parts that are causing them stress (inner critic, procrastinator), and also helps them release (unburden) parts that are causing them pain (anxious parts, angry parts, and fearful parts).
Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)
I am level two trained in PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy), developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin. PACT is an integration of attachment theory, arousal regulation, and developmental neuroscience, and is guided by the principle of secure-functioning relationships. Regardless of one’s attachment history, a secure-functioning relationship is attainable. I help Couples learn how to create true mutuality, safety and security, justice, fairness, and win wins for both partners.
PACT is a bottom-up approach, meaning the therapist focuses on moment-to-moment changes in the couple. Interventions are staged to help couples discover in real time how they are struggling and to experiment with different ways to interact and notice each other with safety and security in mind.
All of my work is inspired and informed by my extensive and ongoing training in psychology, attachment theory, neuroscience and biology. My clients will often describe therapy with me as "fun!. Here's a brief description of each of these areas and how they are valuable in therapy:
Attachment Theory helps us understand how early bonding experiences create a blueprint (for better or worse) for all our future primary adult relationships. My study in this area of psychology allows me to help you identify problems related to attachment and restore safety and security to a suffering self or relationship.
Neuroscience simply refers to the study of the human brain. Exciting new technology and research in this area have improved our ability to understand how human brains respond to relational injuries as well as repairs, making individualized and effective treatment even more possible.
Arousal Theory (Biology):
Arousal Theory explains one's ability to manage physical energy, alertness and readiness to engage. For example, how well do you fight? Do you get too overwhelmed and blank out or do you go into a rage and stay angry for days? How well do you relax? Do you relax easily with your partner or do you turn to shopping, substances or the Internet to help yourself unwind? These behaviors have a major impact on the quality of our relationships and are often the stuff we fight about most.